An Open Mind…

A fellow blogger very wisely reiterated the reminder that…a mind not open to other’s thoughts and ideas is a great tragedy. This is I think one of life’s major challenges…one that is sadly gaining traction in the inability to give the other the benefit and respect of listening with an open mind to their beliefs…opinions…perspectives…Choices…because we have forgotten that…minds like  parachutes, work best when open…

I do believe that to operate from a paradigm of an open…receptive…unbiased…and compassionate mind is definitive on so many levels and enables one to give life a meaning that is not always possible otherwise. It is important to give significance to our lives by giving importance to and valuing the  lives of others…this is not always easy,  but then, very few things worth doing are! Morals of excellence are created by showing tolerance in personal spaces between ourselves…as also creating spaces in the political and religious discourse…using the power of the heart as well as the power and depth of the mind. To respond intelligently, with humility, tolerance and kindness…is justice, the firmest pillar of society….to wax indignant, harboring justifiable feelings of resentment…prejudice…superiority… is so much easier but lacks developing the incomparable potential that is an inherent part of human nature and  embedded in everyone’s soul like a shared DNA…

The Good Lord works in mysterious ways and this last week just as this was on my mind..I found myself in positions that needed all this and more on the table…I met a friend after a long time…the path and choices of her personal journey of growth has been one that has not always  been easy to understand…accept or wrap my mind around…it is still hard…but it has been her journey and one that now seems to have brought her a sense of inner peace…it gives me a warm sense of comfort for her…I also heard a scholar whose  erudition…knowledge…sagacity…is praiseworthy…just one I find hard to relate to…his impact on others is significant…even whilst I find it difficult to comprehend! What is apparent thereof is that the paths to personal evolvement…growth…understanding…learning… and the curve it takes, are not just varied but also sometimes incomprehensible to our understanding…that does not make them wrong…just different…the difference often being the ability not to jump to make harsh judgement calls for things…opinions…views…lifestyles…choices which are difficult to comprehend and relate to…because it is only together, with everyone contributing in the firm belief that we can make a difference…that we do…

 Voltaire said…I may not agree with what you say but I will defend to death your right to say it…that may sound a  bit dramatic…but what a lot of wisdom that line carries…

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Passage of Time…

Days…weeks…months…sometimes they all seem to merge into one another and at others…they never seem to end…or so it seems to us! The truth here is not quite so simple, because what really influences us in this passage of time, is our personal and biased perception of what we are passing through…that is what colors our viewpoints and choices…however, the moment we switch off our innate…biased …perceived views and notions…our preconceived ideas…a whole different aspect of looking at things opens up…or at least a more credible way of viewing the other facet…

The words of truth are often paradoxical…truthful words are not always beautiful just as beautiful words are not always truthful….so too is the fact that good words are not always persuasive and persuasive words not always good…a favorite quote to cover all one’s flanks comes to mind…Do I contradict myself? Very well then…I do…I am large and full of multitudes…but the fact is that everything is not always what you think it is and when we sometimes encounter that…we are taken aback…sometimes quite surprisingly and positively but, because we think we have a position to maintain, we quickly put our biased blinkers back on…

Human understanding is often inconsistent with true understanding…constant effort is necessary to keep knowledge square with the march of time. The paradoxes of life bring us to points when we start to understand just a little more…apparent loss may be real gain…cruelty may be real mercy…returning good for evil may really be justice and not generosity…as well as the realization that sometimes justice is easy, doing right not always so…the real test is being  humane enough to reel in the negative…and begin the journey to a more compassionate awareness…through it all, recognizing the Good Lord’s hand and wisdom which transcends all human calculations…

Gen Y….

A comment by a very dear and loved young one of mine, about a style and sport icon, started me thinking on the ways this new generation connects the dots…and how refreshingly and compassionately different it is to my generation’s. I think it is still a bit of a shock to the system when you realize anew…that we are now in the most part…the eldest generation around…and when the generation gap is talked about…it is us ‘they’ are referring to…we need to get used to this…I need to get used to it…and stop letting it jolt me every time!

With things like…you are only as old as you look…feel…act…the unnatural emphasis on the Botox phenomena and dressing trends incongruous with age…the oft repeated and enjoyed phrases…the 60’s are the new 50’s…50’s are the new 40’s…or that age is only mind over matter…we do tend to sometimes forget that we are…once again with feeling…in the most part…the eldest generation around…

In another post…The joy of children’s successes…I wrote that I feel this generation is one worthy of much praise for their handling of their own personal spaces. I do think they do so in the most part…with an endearing lack of pretension that is most creditable. Their likes and life choices are governed by a strong sense of justice and humanity…their search in learning and working spheres based on individualism…their disowning of an artificial, make believe style of living, dress, attitudes and perception of the other…their unbiased judging of others choices…their concepts of things that really don’t matter…an ownership of their life…space…choices is one to be admired for it’s confident truthfulness…a truthfulness to be appreciated, because the truth is often paradoxical and not always pretty…and also because I feel my generation has often not been a worthy one as far as role models are concerned…

This post is dedicated to these young ones who are learning most ably to rejoice in the way things are…with confidence…compassion…kindness…truthfulness and for taking ownership of their choices with modesty…courage and an almost nonchalant awareness that when you realize that nothing is lacking the whole world belongs to you…

Light at the end of the tunnel…

Is it just me or do you also think that people are becoming more cynical and skeptical and positive attitudes towards say…the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel is now turning to a…get real please ! Ostensibly a platitude…but one I strongly believe to be mired in reality…an often undeniable truth…in spite of the fact that it is more often than not, always darkest and most uncertain before daybreak. This saying does not however seem to get much respect these days or as we are wont to say nowadays…much traction!

Is it just that we as a people are becoming more and more disillusioned? Is it that people…relationships…environment…things around us, just do not seem to inspire the sort of confidence and hope that they did earlier? Or is it just that we are becoming a more censorious and unbelieving lot? Are we just succumbing to a general lack of conviction in whatever it may be and as such, bring it full term to an attitude of not really trying at all to see any hope…good…virtue…purity in whatever it may be…from the trivial to the other end of the spectrum…Although, there is no doubt that all around us there are so many pockets and areas of excellence and integrity…if only we take a step back to actually see…understand…accept…acknowledge…

Last week I got news of something that endorsed and gave comfort to the congenital optimist that I am . A very dear, young and lovely lady who had been in a most unfortunate and painful marriage had the strength some years ago to take a stand and say…no more ! She took recourse with the Law and the Law not only took it’s time, but also took  into account the most frivolous, untruthful and offensive defense…tightening the pressure points around this situation to an extend that had many of us actually doubting that there would be…light at the end of this dark tunnel…

As always however, the Good Lord’s justice came into play…there is light at the end of the tunnel for those who believe…as also showing a way back to belief for those who doubted! It is this strength of Faith…of hope…of conviction…of confidence that we need to hold on to in times of stress and often despair…of understanding that strength of character comes from these qualities and not from frivolous attitudes and behaviors of the day. These do undoubtedly have the power to sometimes temporarily negate the former…in a seemingly reality check mode to life . What it does in truth however is to bring home our need to actually be real…to believe…to have faith…to forgive and forget…to do your bit…show honest integrity…give unstintingly…be sympathetic and compassionate…appreciate all of His gifts…be patient…persevere…love ! There is, always, I do believe…a light at the end of the tunnel…

A favorite quote of mine…

He who seeks …will find!

He who knocks…to him it will be opened!

These are irrefutable, unchangeable laws!

The heartbreaking absence of human values and worth…

Just when we think that we as a people cannot fall any lower…we plummet to baser depths that the mind and soul cannot even begin to grasp. Reeling in shock the paradigm of human behavior seems beyond any…human dimension. Just how does one fall to such an horrific abyss of brutality…this is certainly not the man that the Good Lord made in His image !

It is easy to lay blame…randomly, on circumstances, on lack of education, on poverty, on mob frenzy…but do we not as members of a Civil Society have to own up to having failed on all these levels …and then some, because we are witnessing regular barbaric acts of inhuman actions in our milieu…with no end in sight.

Where does this behavior take root? In the mothers arms..the mother who is regularly abused by a system that gives her no respect or dignity, at an education system that is defective even in it’s eliteness, in imparting or rather failing to impart core values of substance, in daily social dealings that lay no emphasis on justice and rights, on a total  lack of a commitment and adherence to laws of basic human conduct…

Public and personal outrage is not new…despair, remorse , sorrow, anger is also demonstrated as a collective outpouring…but more is required…much more. We have to relearn core human behavioral tenets…We have to relearn to live them…We have to stand up to be counted in a commitment for change…starting from each and everyone of…ourselves !