Actions….and their chain reactions…

It often seems that this is such an inevitable train…and at times it is…but there are other times when you begin to think…believe…that there is no such thing…Sometimes we think it is just…this is only when it suits us…and sometimes it feels like a sledgehammer…and you are left wondering  about the whys and the wherefores…but, whether we want to believe…accept…take in our stride or not…actions do set in motion a different set of actions…a reaction…some to our liking and…some not so much…but there it is…c’est la vie my friend…

In retrospect we regurgitate all the actions which brought about a particular chain reaction…but it is done…and no amount of chest beating can change that…the domino effect was set into motion often unknown to us…by an unthinking word..action…non-action… But more often than not, it is the action…non action….word…we know to be not quite “right”…quite often it is a purely unthinking  knee jerk reaction…sometime we just do not take the time or effort to correct ourself…blaming it on circumstances, temperament, our nature…whatever…not realizing the severity of the chain reactions that then ensue…which can be calamitous…bewildering…unimagined…unwelcome…or then amazing…miraculous…warm and welcome. The reactions are always there…sometimes sooner than later…sometimes so far in the distance that we do not even connect the dots till much later….but a chain reaction will ensue…only sometimes not always what we had hoped for…

It is only then that we realize that the defining…definitive…appropriate…just thing to do or say…is always the “right” thing…we all know what that is…irrespective of our posturing…we know! But as always, we lead ourselves to believe that our actions were just and hence the negative reactions affecting us are a one-off happenstance…our tempers…egos…me…myself…always gets in the way! Sometimes even our effort not to…seems inadequate…half baked…till it is too late…the prayer is that the Good Lord in His grace and generosity grant us faith and humility and always help us to be the best we can…more often than not… 

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The joy of children’s successes…

What is it about your children’s achievements and successes that gets the adrenalin really pumping and brings out all sort of latent qualities of boastfulness to the fore? With the best of intentions and trying really hard not to embarrass your children…it still does not happen, and…you get a blog about it !

On another related front…is it just me or do children/young adults these days get more embarrassed than we were ever wont to…I am told repeatedly they are a more modest generation about their achievements…I am forced to acknowledge this as also realize and accept with much respect that their levels and  milestones of achievements are often quite mind boggling…I cannot for the life of me remember the sort of incredible academic grades achieved today as a norm in my day…do you? It is hence very creditable and worthy of praise to be so unassuming and unpretentious and it is a credit to all our children that they are so…

However, I am less so when it comes to the children’s achievements…and so, I am over the moon at something that my elder son has achieved recently…getting into a most prestigious but challenging professional program for his line of work…it gives me not just so much happiness and pride…but comes with many thanks to the Good Lord for His generosity…as also the prayer that it will be all he wants it to be…will help him in his journey to reach all the milestones he has set for himself…to always give him the courage to dream all his dreams…to maintain the positive strength of hope, optimism and confidence that are his forte…to retain his incredible work ethic and commitment…and in this journey help him not just to realize all his dreams and aspirations but also find joy, satisfaction, success, ease , enjoyment….above all, inner peace and the joy and contentment of achievement…Amen…

Choices…..

Choices…what a priveleged lot we are…we have choices!  Choices to be , to do, to say, to act…exactly as we want more often than not . We are that set of individuals in most societies who have the option to exercise this choice regularly and unfortunately often, with no thought at all…and that is exactly what we do! We exercise it thoughtlessly…randomly…immorally…unethically…irreverently…irresponsibly…and take great pride in doing so…to top it all, we feel affronted if anyone dare question this privelege .

Like all priveleges , this one too comes with a responsibility! Do we usually accept that ? Very few of us do…in spite of ourselves! But sometimes…when faced with particular situations , when backed against a wall, when put in a spot , when it is a face saver…then our choices and ensuing actions are different to our norm…is that not hypocrisy?

What…me…us…hypocritical? No…it is the other person…whose Choices we are unable to stomach, unable to relate to, unable to even want to understand, unable to rationalise (within the gambit of my choices), unable to tolerate…basically unable to allow others a choice of their own which goes against the choices I make! Yes…we are the ones in this priveleged position…

So we question choices others make…choices of belief, of moral code, of dress, of head gear, of politics, of principles, of behaviour, of travel, of company, of lifestyle,  basically whatever is different from my choice of lifestyle . We forget we have an inherent contract, covenant almost, with this edge…to use it with humility…consideration…tolerance…generosity…to use it to lead by example. A difficult moral choice…one that we need to act upon now…this world with all those who have none of these choices of privelege are looking to us…