Actions….and their chain reactions…

It often seems that this is such an inevitable train…and at times it is…but there are other times when you begin to think…believe…that there is no such thing…Sometimes we think it is just…this is only when it suits us…and sometimes it feels like a sledgehammer…and you are left wondering  about the whys and the wherefores…but, whether we want to believe…accept…take in our stride or not…actions do set in motion a different set of actions…a reaction…some to our liking and…some not so much…but there it is…c’est la vie my friend…

In retrospect we regurgitate all the actions which brought about a particular chain reaction…but it is done…and no amount of chest beating can change that…the domino effect was set into motion often unknown to us…by an unthinking word..action…non-action… But more often than not, it is the action…non action….word…we know to be not quite “right”…quite often it is a purely unthinking  knee jerk reaction…sometime we just do not take the time or effort to correct ourself…blaming it on circumstances, temperament, our nature…whatever…not realizing the severity of the chain reactions that then ensue…which can be calamitous…bewildering…unimagined…unwelcome…or then amazing…miraculous…warm and welcome. The reactions are always there…sometimes sooner than later…sometimes so far in the distance that we do not even connect the dots till much later….but a chain reaction will ensue…only sometimes not always what we had hoped for…

It is only then that we realize that the defining…definitive…appropriate…just thing to do or say…is always the “right” thing…we all know what that is…irrespective of our posturing…we know! But as always, we lead ourselves to believe that our actions were just and hence the negative reactions affecting us are a one-off happenstance…our tempers…egos…me…myself…always gets in the way! Sometimes even our effort not to…seems inadequate…half baked…till it is too late…the prayer is that the Good Lord in His grace and generosity grant us faith and humility and always help us to be the best we can…more often than not… 

Renewal of Faith…

We have a saying…custom…belief…about the evil eye…how an excess of good/happiness must ward off the evil eye with certain prayers…and although most of us will pooh-pooh the idea, there are definitely times when it is frighteningly true…or so it certainly seems at the time…

Last week, after a glut of joyous bonhomie, an incident with a loved one, my son, had me thinking just this…as also remembering my mother who believed in this unequivocally, made no bones about it…and let everyone know…in case they thought otherwise…but then, they don’t make them like her anymore…

The manner in which he handled the whole incident…the calm…poise…practicality…understated acceptance…gave me wings of pride.. His attitude towards the incident set the tone for the rest of us…As Khalil Gibran so wisely said…Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you, as by the attitude you bring to life…not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens to you…this was done in quite an exemplary manner…

I do believe that, determined by your attitude, the Good Lord then sets the pace for the next set of incidents…action…in motion…and miraculously the whole incident was reversed in a manner that is hard to explain…quite unbelievable…but there it is…the test of renewal of faith, based on the acceptance of a greater plan…

A Milestone Celebration with loved ones…

Celebrations are…exhilarating enjoyment…the last couple of weeks have been just that as I celebrated a Milestone birthday with loved ones. With so many of my loved ones now scattered all across the Global Village we live in, we all met up in a favorite city…Singapore ! As another loved one said…Gotta love Singapore…that is so true…it is a Garden City that never fails to excite…inspire…uplift and is just a lot of fun. Having a celebratory couple of weeks here has been like a dream…

Being together with those who love you and are loved deeply, is a celebration in itself…to then top it up with a whirl of outings…a cruise…the surprise arrival of a dear one…endless eating sprees…retail therapy…self indulgences…staying up chatting till all odd hours of the night in a familiar comfort zone…the silliness and sheer pleasure of being together…are just blessings for which there is no replacement…these are blessings that are often taken for granted but leave their mark in our memory banks…so lovingly and indelibly…

Then…there are all the very loving and most generous wishes and comments from so many dear ones…whom it is joy and blessing to know and have in my corner…the calls from near and far…the love, care and consideration is overwhelming in it’s sincerity…all this comes from a most thankful and grateful heart to all who made this celebration and transition as it were, into…as someone said…the early late-morning of my life…such an absolutely glorious and celebratory one…above all, to the Good Lord for all these blessings and for helping me reiterate once again…my cup runneth over…