A parent’s death is almost a surreal experience , as neither the heart, nor the mind has begun it’s journey of acceptance of circumstance at that point of time. We are never quite prepared for death, but the finality of this loss, irrespective of what the mind tells us, in spite of seeing the advance of old age and illness.. always seems to catch you unawares…almost on the back foot so to speak…you always want a little more time…often against your better judgement !

It is the end of an era…one in which parents are the binding factors. The loss and sense of bereavement I felt at my Father’s passing away, ten years ago was immense, but with Mother still in our midst, there was none of the finality at that time. With my Mother’s death, two years ago today… came a finality that, with every sense of faith, is still the hardest to come to terms with! I do not think that we are ever quite prepared for this loss, irrespective of age…what the mind tells us…or seeing the advance of old age and illness! The child in us is, I now realize, never quite ready to give up this status…..and grieves for it! This brings home the great truth that grieving is in part, selfish, because in this we grieve the loss of all it means to be a child, the loss of the only constant and unconditional love giver…and a place to call…Home!  God teaches us so much through this timeless circle of life…yet so many of us  still fail to see, understand, accept, and hence, act accordingly. May God in His Infinite mercy grant us all the strenght and faith to handle life in all it’s aspects, and grant us the grace to always try to do the right thing .

The journey of trying to come to terms with grief and the  sense of loss, as well as a new and changed reality is something that needs to be done in the private recesses of one’s heart and mind, as well as collectively with loved ones. The love of family is one of God’s greatest blessing..but the fear of the unknown future without the safety net of parents is challenging…huge changes take place and become part of our lives…a new structure has to naturally fall into place…new responsibilities need to be shouldered…new dynamics of family have to be worked at…some fall into place fairly automatically…others have to be worked at…it is not always easy, but the prayer is, that with His Help, family members help each other to do so in love and consideration….as a contribution to the celebration of one’s parents lives…making it their ultimate inheritance !


Deep inside our consciousness is an oasis of peace. This is at the centre of the soul. Not passive, but a source of inner power to fuel our mind and intellect, so that we can create powerful thoughts and make accurate decisions. If you can learn to go to this centre, peace will be your companion, positivity your partner, and you will be able to chill out in one second, anywhere, anytime. Returning to the centre of your self is the journey of one second. It is the regular destination of clever souls. And it is the source of your power and peace.


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